Understanding a Wasp

Zeus Zaps John in a Painful Lesson

Zeus Teaches the Young John a Lesson He'll Remember

One sunny day when I was young I was out enjoying a good game with my elder brothers. We didn’t always get on so well, but on this day we were having fun together for the whole long and warm summer day. It was so warm that I had stripped off my shirt and had been enjoying the heat from the sun and the play of air over my skin.

In the middle of this I noticed a feeling in my side. At first it was mild but it grew rapidly to a sharp pinching feeling. I looked down, and there was a wasp still with its sting in my side pumping more poison in. It had landed on me while my arms were raised and I had inadvertently squashed it when I put my arm down again. The pain was now intense. Continue reading

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Life’s Thrills

Want a thrill?

Isn’t life thrilling?
Don’t you just get the biggest thrills from exciting sports?
How about falling in love or having a baby or winning a lottery prize – aren’t those amazing thrills too?

The answer to all of these is NO! It is not the thing that is thrilling in itself, it is us. We have the thrill and we create it within us in response to what we do or what happens to us. And it’s not even in direct response to life, our favourite sport, or a life-affecting event. Our actual thrill comes from the way that we think about those things and the way that we go about our experiencing of events in life. Continue reading

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Life Improvement

Sometimes the answers that we struggle to find are very simple.

Garden makeover with path in place, wall still to build.

Work Continues on Garden Makeover

I have pondered for years about why I am interested in the things that I am and why my seeking continues. My pondering has become more productive in recent years as I have worked with other people and have been able to simplify my insights. The changes that I make, the visions that I have, the environments that I find nurturing, the practices that I value, the insights that I get excited about, and the things that I want to teach are all about life improvement. Continue reading

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Forgiveness

Love is the act of forgiveness.

Baby looks out

Eye of the beholder

There is one core insight that I have found strangely challenging to pass on or teach, and that is the significance of emotional forgiveness. The problem seems to be that most of us have a strong popular understanding of what forgiveness is and a politically-correct stance to forgive but our actual practice is limited to logical forgiveness. When we don’t reach for a deeper understanding not only do we end up suffering ourselves but we can miss an awful lot in life.

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New Intention

Effective intentions need to be more than just ‘Good Intentions’.

House on the hill

New lease of life

It has been a while since I was able to post a blog, and that is for some very good reasons. I have moved house, I have had a new baby (or more truthfully my wife has had the baby but I am an enthusiastic dad!), and I have been taking time to redefine my long-term purposes for my vocation and business. Continue reading

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Free Will and the Sacred Space

True free will requires the creation of a special state of mind.

A winding path

Light shows the way

Elsewhere I have touched on some of the arguments about the existence or otherwise of personal free will. Here I want to look at another aspect that is important: Just what is free will anyway? Continue reading

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Love is Free

I have a definition for love.  It’s one that I first got to some years ago when I was struggling through my early thoughts for ‘Walks of Mind’ and comes from my attempts to understand more about what emotions and feelings actually are.

Love is the basic motivation to engage with life. Continue reading

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